What I think* I have learned:
1. Loving Yourself is more about what you feed your head than anything else. If you really listen to yourself talk is it kind? To you? To others?
I found my internal "voice" was obnoxious! I wouldn't want to hang around with me. Ewwwww. The noise was incessant. Constantly whining about the situation, about others. I dare you to listen, really listen. What do you tell yourself all day?
I am fairly certain that beating yourself up for something you did, didn't do, said, didn't say, heard, want to hear but haven't, etc. . . ALL OF IT is the opposite of Loving Yourself.
2. Loving Yourself is about looking at every single decision you make ALL day long! From the food you choose, drink you swallow, teeth you floss (or don't), the exercise you do, the conversations you have. . . ALL OF IT MATTERS!
Collectively these actions either say I care about myself enough to make the simple and tough decisions or I don't. The loving decisions are often based on longer term rewards than instant gratification. BEWARE: The "I deserve this ________" (fill in the blank - drink, ice cream, pizza, etc..) is about to lose its power and may be replaced with "I deserve to be healthy and the good news is I have the power to make that happen." NOTE: Truth is not only can you -- only you can!
3. We have an unlimited amount of opportunity to get it right -- day after day, minute by minute.
So, when you screw up, don't dwell on it. Let it go. Move on. You have a fresh opportunity right NOW to Love Yourself. (See #1 for reason to let it go.)